Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything.” While ‘anything’ might be a little bit of an exaggeration, it does speak to the power of laughter.
When I think back to the best first dates I’ve been on, they all had one thing in common: laughter. Women love men who can make them laugh – it shows that you’re confident, fun, and easygoing.
Making a woman laugh isn’t always easy, but with practice and a bit of creativity, you can make it happen. The fact that not everyone can do it is actually a good thing. It means that it’s a great way of standing out from the crowd.
If you’re questioning whether it’s worth it, don’t worry. It’s a resounding yes. The rewards are immense, and it’s an amazing way to build attraction. Of course, there’s no one behavior or trait that automatically results in a woman being attracted to you. But making her laugh will definitely increase your chances.
Ultimately, learning how to make a woman laugh is a win-win situation. Not only will it make her happy, but it will also make you feel good about yourself, and it helps to solidify your bond.
9 Ways to Make a Woman Laugh
So, how can you make a woman laugh? Here are our top tips to keep in mind.
1. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
One of the first steps to making a woman laugh is to not take yourself too seriously. It sends a powerful signal – it shows that you’re comfortable in your own skin, which is a highly attractive trait. So why does this matter? Women are much more likely to laugh when they are with someone who appears confident. This is because if they feel like you’re at ease, they feel more comfortable themselves. Think back to when you’re in the presence of someone who you can sense is insecure. It can be hard to laugh and relax around them. So, making a woman feel relaxed is the first step to making her laugh.
2. Work out your style of humor.
Figuring out what style of humor suits you best will set you on the right path to making her laugh. Perhaps you’re the kind of man who can deliver a perfectly timed deadpan joke. Or you might be a master of wordplay. When it comes to types of humor, there is no one-size-fits-all, and working out which style is best suited to you will increase your chance of making a woman laugh. The style of humor that suits you best will be the one that feels the most natural. You might not know this right away, but if you start trying out different styles, it’ll become more and more obvious.
3. Be prepared to fail.
You might not be able to make her laugh the first time you try, but don’t worry. It’s normal – being funny takes practice. If it was easy, the whole world would be in a constant fit of laughter. It’s worth remembering that even the top comedians have had shows where they’ve been booed off the stage. Now, I’m not suggesting that you’ll suffer the same fate. That would be quite an extreme outcome for a date. But do be prepared to fail. It’s a sign of character – it shows that you’re willing to take risks and that you’re not afraid to make mistakes. And these characteristics alone are sexy!
4. Know your audience.
Not everyone has the same sense of humor, and it can be hard to know what she likes at first, especially if you’ve only just met. The key is to take notice of what she finds funny. Is she someone who likes to laugh at the absurdity of life? Or does she prefer more subtle humor? Use what you observe to tailor your jokes. A joke that makes one woman cry with laughter might fall flat with another. It can even vary depending on the context or her mood – jokes about work or politics could be hilarious at one moment, but less so if the mood of the conversation changes or she’s had a bad day at work. Ultimately, making a woman laugh is a learning experience, and the sooner you try, the faster you’ll discover what puts a smile on her face.
5. Tease her.
Teasing is a great way to make a woman laugh. Not only does it demonstrate your wit, but it also allows you to build familiarity. It can be endearing, and it can also encourage a playful dynamic between you. Be careful, though. Teasing her too much or in the wrong way can backfire. So, you just need to ensure that the teasing stays kind and respectful. One of the funniest men I’ve ever dated would pick up on some of my traits that few people had noticed, and then he would tease me in an endearing way. Not only did it make me laugh, but it also made me feel seen. Showing someone that you’re paying attention to them can be a powerful tool when it comes to attraction.
6. Tell stories and anecdotes.
Everyone loves a good story, and telling funny ones can be the perfect way to make a woman laugh. The secret to making stories memorable is to keep them short and sweet. Make sure you add flourish and emotion to really keep her engaged. Weave in humor and playfulness while you tell your stories to make them even more entertaining. When it comes to this kind of humor, it can pay to practice in advance so that you can tell the story with ease and confidence. A funny story is a great trick to have up your sleeve because it can help to break the ice in awkward moments and it’s something you can rely on if conversation slows.
7. Make fun of yourself.
Making fun of yourself can be a great way to make a woman laugh. It shows that you are self-aware, and it can be refreshing for her to hear someone who isn’t afraid to poke fun at themselves. It also shows confidence. You can use this technique to make light of any faux pas you may have made, as long as it’s done in a lighthearted way. The key is not to make fun of yourself too much, as this can send the wrong message. There’s a fine line between making fun of yourself and putting yourself down. The former comes from a place of confidence, and the latter is often due to low self-esteem.
8. Be unpredictable.
Laughter can be caused by surprise. So, use unpredictability to your advantage. This doesn’t mean that you need to be theatrical or put on a show – it can be as simple as making jokes that she wasn’t expecting. It’s fun to be unpredictable and keep her guessing. Injecting some spontaneity into your conversations can stop it from becoming flat and boring, too. I was once on a date with a guy, and a couple asked us to take a photo of them on a mobile phone. The guy I was with suddenly pretended to run off with their phone, and we all couldn’t help but laugh. This kind of spontaneous behavior has an element of surprise, which can create attraction in itself. So, this technique is a perfect addition to a date.
9. Accept that not everyone will find you funny.
Finally, it’s important to accept that not everyone will find you funny. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t a funny person. If you felt like you were on top form, but it didn’t quite hit the mark, it could simply be that you’re not compatible in terms of your shared sense of humor. Humor compatibility is just like overall dating compatibility: there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. So don’t take it personally if she doesn’t crack a smile; it just might not be the right match. This isn’t about accepting defeat; it’s about spending time and energy on the right person.
When it comes to making a woman laugh, the key is to be authentic and genuine. Don’t try too hard, or you might come off as insincere. If something funny pops into your head, say it; don’t bottle it up! As with most things in life, the best way to learn and improve is by having a go and accepting that you won’t get it right all the time.
It’s also important to remember that laughter isn’t just about the joke you tell; it’s also bout creating an environment of fun and light-heartedness. And having a few tricks up your sleeve never hurts.
Why having a good sense of humor is so attractive
Now we’ve shared our top tips, let’s take a look at why having a great sense of humor is viewed as such a great quality in a potential partner.
There are a number of theories as to why humor is attractive to a potential partner:
1. It indicates you are intelligent. One possibility is that people who are funny are seen as more intelligent and creative. This is particularly relevant with specific types of humor, such as observational humor, which often requires a lot of creativity and can be difficult to pull off, at least without practice.
2. It shows you are a quick thinker. Having a good sense of humor is also a sign that someone is able to respond quickly to a situation and think on their feet. Knowing that someone is able to deal with the unexpected is a great quality.
3. It is a sign that you’re not afraid to be vulnerable. Making jokes requires you to put yourself out there. You’re taking a risk that people won’t find you funny. The ability to be vulnerable is a great trait to have and it’s essential for building deep connections.
The science behind why laughter is important when dating
There has been a lot of research on laughter and its effects. For example, it has been found that when laughing, people experience an increase in the feel-good hormones in the body, including serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. It’s not rocket science – no pun intended –people want to be around those who make them feel good.
Laughter doesn’t just make us feel good in the moment – it has lasting effects. It actually helps to reduce stress and can directly even help us to form deeper connections with others.
There are less direct but equally as important benefits of laughter, too. When you’re feeling good, you’re better able to show up as the best version of yourself. This lays the foundation for a great relationship.
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Being able to make someone laugh has a lot of benefits in terms of attraction and connection, so it’s worth mastering the art.
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Anyway, with these nine tips, you’re well on your way to being the guy who can light up a room and make a woman laugh from the bottom of her heart. Good luck!
