How the 16 Personality Types Flirt with You

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Depending on our personalities, we all have different ways of flirting with others. Some personality types are natural flirts (we’re looking at you ENFPs and ESFPs), while others are a little more reserved.

In this article, we explore how each personality type navigates the world of courtship and their typical flirting style.


INFPs can be quite shy when it comes to flirting, and they often come across as aloof, especially with people they’ve only just met. Expect some blushing and stumbling over words. Once they get to know you better, their playful side will come out, and they’ll seem much flirtier. If an INFP likes you, they’ll ask you all sorts of (sometimes weird!) questions. 


ENFPs are one of the flirtiest personality types as a result of their warm, open, and playful nature. They are people-oriented and curious individuals. These two traits combined mean that they often ask people a lot of questions, which can come across as flirty, even when they don’t mean to be.  


INFJs aren’t naturally flirty. They get quite nervous when it comes to flirting, and it takes them a long time to open up. If an INFJ likes you, they’ll listen intently to every word you say to try and figure you out. They’ll skip the small talk and jump straight to the deeper questions.


ENFJs are definitely flirty. They naturally focus their attention on others and this can come across as flirting, even when they aren’t. ENFJs are charismatic and caring. If an ENFJ likes you, they’ll make sure that you have everything you need and will keep a close eye on you to make sure you’re happy. 


INTPs are not flirty people. If they could, they’d skip the flirting and move on to a meaningful relationship with someone that they truly connect with. If an INTP likes you, they’ll be naturally curious to discover more about you, and they’ll also help you try to solve problems.


ENTPs are certainly flirty people. They have an air of confidence and a playful nature. ENTPs aren’t afraid to tease you. ENTPs have a knack for reading people and know how to push their buttons. They’re witty and joke around a lot, but even more so around people they fancy. 


INTJs are one of the less flirty personality types. They tend to be direct, and the nuances of flirting don’t come naturally to them. However, if an INTJ likes you, they’ll ask a lot of questions to try and determine if you’d be a good match long-term. They like to plan far into the future, and they won’t waste their time with someone they don’t think is right.


ENTJs can be flirty when they want to be. They tend to be the ones initiating the flirting, and if they like someone, they’ll let them know. If an ENTJ is initiating dates and wants to spend time with you, it’s a sign that they like you because they don’t waste time with someone that they don’t think is a good match.


ISFJs are not obviously flirty. They tend to be reserved, especially with people they don’t know well. But if an ISFJ likes you, they’ll pay close attention to you. They will help you as much as possible and make sure that you have all your needs met.


ESFJs are flirty personality types. They are naturally empathetic and sociable. Moreover, showing physical affection comes naturally to ESFJs.  If an ESFJ likes you, they’ll want to spend a lot of time with you and make sure that you’re happy. They might not make the first move, though.


Of all the personality types, ISTJs do not enjoy flirting. Being practical and direct, they’d prefer not to play games and instead be upfront about their intentions. However, they’re traditional and if an ISTJ likes you, they’ll do things like pick you up to escort you to your date and book dinner at a romantic restaurant.


ESTJs are flirty in a direct way. They are confident and will often be the ones making the first move. ESTJs certainly aren’t shy when it comes to flirting, and subtle moves are not their style. If an ESTJ likes you, they’ll make it known, and you won’t be left guessing.


ISFPs are flirty once they get to know you. It might not be obvious if they like you because they can be quite shy, especially at first. But after a while, they’ll come out of their shell and be their naturally playful and easy-going selves.


ESFPs are one of the flirtiest personality types. They are bold, spontaneous, and fun, which is the ultimate recipe for flirting. ESFPs are naturally charming individuals who know how to work a room, and they are confident in their flirting abilities. You’ll know if an ESFP likes you because they aren’t afraid to show it.


ISTPs are not flirty individuals. They are quietly confident, and it’s not that they get nervous, but flirting just doesn’t come naturally to them. If an ISTP likes you, it might not be obvious because they often treat friends and people they like in a similar way. They might tease you in an attempt to flirt.


ESTPs are definitely flirty. They instinctively know how to charm people, and they love to use these skills. ESTPs are confident, and it’s highly likely that they’ll make the first move. If an ESTP likes you, you won’t be sitting there wondering if that’s the case.

Final thoughts on how the 16 personality types flirt with you

In conclusion, each of the 16 personality types have unique and diverse ways of flirting with others. From the bold and confident approach of ESTPs to the subtle and mysterious tactics of INTJs, each personality type brings their own charm and allure to the dating game.

Whether it’s through playful banter, intellectual discussions, or acts of kindness, different personalities make people feel desired and wanted in a variety of ways. So next time you find yourself being flirted with by someone, take a moment to consider their personality type and see if you can decipher their flirting style.

If you enjoyed this post, you might also like our post about the ideal date for each personality type.

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